The unscripted moments!!

What is the probability of a low probability incident occurring?
Sounds crazy!!
Hmm! Not to me at least!!
I keep teaching my students to rehearse every situation!! To be prepared- yup! That is what I keep telling them!!
Is it really possible to be prepared!!
The probability is very low!!
At any given point of time, we seem to get more than what we are prepared for in life!!
The most unforeseen unscripted moments that come our way are from our near and dear!!
Untold is the state of a mother who is ordered by her daughter/son not to interfere in his/her personal life!!
A mother might have just figured out that her son is into a living in relationship, is her script ready to respond in that scenario?
You realize that one fine day your child has stopped listening to you, are you ready to deal with it?
It is just not in personal life alone that we see this unpredictability, it happens professionally too!!
Nastiness of our bosses, our colleagues, our subordinates and scores of others!! This is something that we are not emotionally equipped to face!!
We see these incidents happening around us but we never ever think that it could happen in our lives!!
We can write the script for the pleasant incidents in life but never for the unpleasant!!
Can we then say that all human beings are die hard romantics!!
Coz
We avoid the unpleasant!!

Comments

  1. Manasa.March 29, 2010 at 7:11 PM

    Feels like you are preparing me for the worst pinamma! scary, specially the kids not listening to parents part! :|

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  2. HYMarch 29, 2010 at 8:23 PM

    @ Papi :

    1. If life did not give you those unscripted moments, its sheer predictability would kill you. And that is an ironic statement in itself.

    2. I remember hearing this at school. You will never come up against something you cannot handle. If you do, you never were meant to survive it.

    3. Avoiding the unpleasant is a natural trait of any living being. Let alone human beings. Any living creature is a die hard romantic.

    4. Your kid does not stop listening to you. He/She just begins to make his/her own decisions. He/She may or may not go along with your plans for her/him. But it is possible that he/she intends to spite you for perceived insults/injuries. So I wouldn't generalize that. But I think it is more important to just ask for the rationale behind their decisions and not appear sceptical. That usually will help clear any issues. And that is when they really begin to reason things out logically.

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  3. HYMarch 29, 2010 at 8:32 PM

    @Papi :

    5. Your advice to always be prepared is the studdest. But the need for improvisation is just as vital. You must drill that too into their heads. Like you said, life is unpredictable. Seldom will you find yourself able to respond to a situation with the exact same response as to a previous experience and still achieve ideal or optimal results. An ability to improvise and think on your feet must be added. Preparation can only involve working out obvious and probable scenarios and working out preplanned responses. A dangerous approach if adhered to just by itself. Flexible planning must be there.

    6. Nastiness is pretty much a given, isn't it? :).

    7. You win some. You lose some.

    8. This turned out to be a mini post in itself. :D

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  4. HYMarch 29, 2010 at 8:35 PM

    @ Manasakka : You haven't even started. Am certain it will be a wonderful ride. I want it to be unpredictable and wonderful for you. If you ask me, nothing to be scared about. You'll get to it. You will know to deal with it. :)

    Let there be randomness.

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  5. Anant KhadpekarMarch 30, 2010 at 12:30 AM

    Being prepared is not always possible. You can be prepared for situations which you might think can occur. What about those we never dreamt about? Absolutely right ma'am. As human beings we are die hard romantics.

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  6. PamMarch 30, 2010 at 10:30 AM

    Agree with all of you that we cannot be prepared for all things in life!! Yet professionally speaking, the unscripted moments are the most unproductive moments!! Nastiness of boss, colleagues leaves us most of the time with regret. We all wish we had got back at them with something good!!
    So, I was only talking about the helpless feeling that one is left to face in such a situation!! I am not negating the thrill of randomness or facing sudden, unpredictable things in life!!
    As far as children are concerned, I think for all the love received one has to keep in mind to what extent things are acceptable and bearable for parents. Coz I feel when I love someone deeply I will never do anything that is gonna hurt them - be it Parents, children, companions, GF's BF's!!
    None of us ever had a situation of unpredictability with our parents - we always know what to expect of them, though as you put it it is boring!!

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  7. Cest-la-Vie....March 31, 2010 at 11:43 PM

    well written..esp in today's context when most of us stay away from our family...but the unpredictability which we bring in others life will come back to haunt us too....best is to be prepared fr the worst case...it hurt's to be hurt but then life goes on and u learn from the harsh realities...n move on...

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